Marriage (or a committed relationship) is not a static state between two unchanging people but is instead a psychological and spiritual journey that needs to grow as the relationship develops.
Conflict in a relationship is healthy, but its potential for growth is dependent on the couple’s capacity to deal with conflict in in ways which take into account their individual and shared internal worlds.
The therapeutic goal of couples therapy is to increase the clients’ insight into the unconscious motives that influence the nature of their personal relationships.
In psychoanalytic psychotherapy it is believed that there are important unconscious forces in the person’s emotional life, usually stemming from childhood, that remain hidden and which may emerge in certain situations, relationships or life events.
As couples therapy develops, puzzling aspects of your relationship begin to make sense to you, and you have a greater sense of control.
You accept the fact that, in order to understand each other, you have to develop clear channels of communication.
You learn to value your partner’s needs and wishes as highly as you value your own as you both learn new ways to satisfy your basic needs and desires.
And finally, you find within yourself strengths and abilities you may have been lacking as your confidence grows.